Friday, 10 April 2015

Why am I in France...?

How to write a wedding ceremony...

I'm writing two ceremonies this week - one for a couple who are eloping and one for a couple marrying on the beach.

The most important elements I've found are to: listen to what they are saying and really listen to what they are not saying...

Sit under a cherry tree full of blossom and bees -


and write...

Saturday, 4 April 2015

How to control the cost of your wedding - or Beauty and the Beast

How much will your wedding cost?

About £6500 apparently...shocking! Well it was in 1992 when I first wrote this...

I was a freelance writer and wrote an annual Wedding Guide for the Kent area. I found this one the other day and was intrigued to see what weddings were like some 20 years ago. I had written...

We can't ignore the recession - there isn't as much money around as there might have been two years ago when you first thought getting married might be  a good idea. If you look at the average cost of getting married in 1992 - £6500 - you could change your mind...If you look at an average breakdown of costs you may despair...

Reception        £2300
Dress               £ 700
Bridesmaids    £ 400
Photography   £ 300
Flowers           £ 200
Transport        £ 200

Don't despair, I counselled, there are ways of cutting costs...

So I was even more  intrigued to find this article in You and Your Wedding here detailing the similar cost today - 
£20,500...The survey reveals that:


The single biggest wedding expenditure is venue hire, costing an average of £3,397 (16% of the total cost); perhaps explaining why so many brides expect to go over their budget – finding a venue was ranked as the top priority by brides when planning their wedding, above setting the budget and deciding the guest list. The honeymoon is the second biggest outlay for the wedding, an average of £3,164 (15% of the total budget), followed by food at £2,882 (14%).



I think, now, my advice would be to do something like getting married in France! With a choice of stunning venues from chateaux (not all huge and grand but sometimes the more stunning for that) to wedding picnics in farmhouse gardens, weddings in woods, fields, on beaches, marrying and then camping under the stars - or honeymooning in the area you've already travelled to anyway.



Guests also get a holiday - usually in lovely weather and beautiful locations.


Food is wonderful - breads from the local boulangerie, meats from local butchers, cheese, vegetables and fruit from the local markets - and then, of course, your drinks bill is cut by two thirds - good local wines, still for two euros a litre, or top quality appellations for the price of an undistinguished bottle in the UK...










In 1992 I wrote:
Draw up a list of priorities - is the reception or the dress more important than the honeymoon?Is the honeymoon more important than furnishing the house? Only you know where you're prepared to economise and compromise...
Still seems sensible advice to me - I didn't know about France then though...